Are you troubled by obvious anger? Or do you get depressed? Then read on.

Anger has very many faces and I find that many patients are quite unaware of this.

As a result of unawareness they have never discovered that this anger energy is very valuable and that there is a way to harness the anger energies and use them for creative love, creating healthy relationships and bringing life into any situation.

Isn’t it better to open up and learn about these things than to get into a recurring guilt cycle over being so moody, irritable, impatient, cranky, volatile, abusive – or to wall off more and more into depression, isolation and despair?

Have you ever thought that anger brought us into life? Think about it. When the baby decides to get out of the confine of the womb, a horrendous birth process for baby is initiated – (by the baby unless there is outside interference).

This is all by divine design. We go from warmth to cold, from upside down to right side up, from dark to light (so bright we can’t open our eyes), from mum’s familiar muffled voice to absence of this familiar sound to harsh, shrill sounds coming onto our eardrums via the dry air, and this causes us pain. We are so squashed through the narrow birth passage for so long our head is out of shape, skull bones overlap, we may even be bruised. Now all this makes a healthy baby rightly very angry.

So when it is suddenly manhandled and comes out into the air, it wants to express that anger. We are pleased if the baby cries LUSTILY and turns from blue to bright pink or red. No worries with that one. If the baby is so shocked that it expresses no feeling, we see the blueness ever deepening, will it be stillborn? It was recently so alive, now dead? To avert this we turn the baby upside down by the feet, suck out the airways, slap it’s chest with cold liquid. WHY? – to provoke the anger response. We want it to express feeling.

The external feelings coming in through the sense realm rightly disturb us so much.

What does the baby have to do to vocalise? It must take a breath! Thus anger is the force that brings in the breath of life. Life is started with just one breath! How close then are anger and love??

Apply that to relationships. We get married, are born into a family, and people say and do things that are distasteful. If we use our angers and hurts to locate the real problem then we can birth life into a situation, and accept the pains that come along with the growth of relationships. The baby’s cry in labour ward is a joy, hurts no one.

May we learn in emotional life situations to express an acceptable cry that brings joy, not pain, to others.

For years I thought feelings and emotions were the same. I now think differently. It seems to me that using our seed words so loosely brings in a lot of confusion and so we become disempowered by our words which spring from our thoughts, usually the subconscious ones, linked to the passed past.

Feelings belong to the sense realm, and die when our body dies. The 5 senses of sight, hearing, touch, taste and smell, do not work when our body has died. Imagine your eye on a stool? Can it see? (Even in the body, the eye simply conveys light, which enables the mind to see, to no longer be in the dark).

The mind, the conscious and subconscious thought life, belongs to the soul, the personality, which is either developing or disintegrating, not neutral. The emotions follow the way we think. The emotions drive our personality. From where do we emote? So often it is from the past, with all its hurts, disappointments, ignorances, deceptions, rather than from the truth of what it means to be a real human being. Yes, there is light, truth, to be found on this subject of being truly and fully human, mature and functioning, effective in being and doing.

So where does the confusion come in?

When we see and hear things, we are relating to the external world through the sense realm, and we start to have feelings. If we let the things we see and hear control us, to live by those feelings, we are living in the realm of darkness, because all these things are going to die when our body dies.

The sense realm is left behind at death of the body but the personality with the emotions goes on. If we start to think that the material world is the reality, then we are in living in a deception. We become deceived by what we see and hear and want more and more, and experience less and less of LIFE. The material world only came into being by thought, followed by word.

The real world is the invisible one. LOVE is experienced, but it is not material itself. It can certainly produce material results.

If we seek the light on all this, when the truth reaches our emotional selves, that is, starts to be experienced, then we start to understand and to be set free from the inside. Truth knowledge is an important start for the head, the control centre, the adult in us.

It is like bringing wood to the fireplace. The mind is like the fireplace. The soul is like the fire, in our belly, the place of passion, where we live, or where the fire goes out. The energy comes from this child within. The child (our emotions) needs love, acceptance, encouragement and training. Our mind needs to be renewed by truth to bring our emotions under control, loved and biddable, like a really co-operative child in the family ( contrast the rebel child in family and inside us).

When we confuse the sense realm with the soul realm, we are in trouble. Is that you?