Are you troubled by obvious anger? Or do you get depressed? Then read on.
Anger has very many faces and I find that many patients are quite unaware of this.
As a result of unawareness they have never discovered that this anger energy is very valuable and that there is a way to harness the anger energies and use them for creative love, creating healthy relationships and bringing life into any situation.
Isn’t it better to open up and learn about these things than to get into a recurring guilt cycle over being so moody, irritable, impatient, cranky, volatile, abusive – or to wall off more and more into depression, isolation and despair?
Have you ever thought that anger brought us into life? Think about it. When the baby decides to get out of the confine of the womb, a horrendous birth process for baby is initiated – (by the baby unless there is outside interference).
This is all by divine design. We go from warmth to cold, from upside down to right side up, from dark to light (so bright we can’t open our eyes), from mum’s familiar muffled voice to absence of this familiar sound to harsh, shrill sounds coming onto our eardrums via the dry air, and this causes us pain. We are so squashed through the narrow birth passage for so long our head is out of shape, skull bones overlap, we may even be bruised. Now all this makes a healthy baby rightly very angry.
So when it is suddenly manhandled and comes out into the air, it wants to express that anger. We are pleased if the baby cries LUSTILY and turns from blue to bright pink or red. No worries with that one. If the baby is so shocked that it expresses no feeling, we see the blueness ever deepening, will it be stillborn? It was recently so alive, now dead? To avert this we turn the baby upside down by the feet, suck out the airways, slap it’s chest with cold liquid. WHY? – to provoke the anger response. We want it to express feeling.
The external feelings coming in through the sense realm rightly disturb us so much.
What does the baby have to do to vocalise? It must take a breath! Thus anger is the force that brings in the breath of life. Life is started with just one breath! How close then are anger and love??
Apply that to relationships. We get married, are born into a family, and people say and do things that are distasteful. If we use our angers and hurts to locate the real problem then we can birth life into a situation, and accept the pains that come along with the growth of relationships. The baby’s cry in labour ward is a joy, hurts no one.
May we learn in emotional life situations to express an acceptable cry that brings joy, not pain, to others.
